Couples Counseling in Greeley and Fort Collins, Colorado
There comes a point for every couple where the resolve of both parties will be tested. Inevitably, partners will feel hurt, angered, and/or disappointment. These feelings are normal over the course of a relationship but can become a problem when they arise too often. Expectations, feelings of being overwhelmed and smothered can lead couples to lash out and say things they don't mean. It is also common for each member of the partnership to feel like they are being taken for granted once the initial honeymoon period fades and problems arise. Once this happens, it can be difficult to identify the problem, and issues can get pushed away and hidden under the false pretense of normalcy until one or both partners breaks down. You might feel like you are afraid to say how you really feel because you don't want to hurt your partner's feelings or you are afraid to confront them about your feelings. You might even pretend that these things don't bother you but this only builds inside of you making matters worse when an argument does occur.
When arguments become common and feelings of resentment and hostility surface, a qualified couples counselor can help to discuss these feelings and disover the underlying issue. During these counseling sessions it is common for couples to discuss feelings that they didn't know existed and address them in order to move forward with the relationship. Additionally, it is often beneficial for couples to engage in family therapy sessions, when appropriate, which allows all members of the family to share their feelings. As a result of these couples counseling sessions, the goal is to break down the walls that separate the relationship partners and provide stability moving forward.
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Many couples reach out for counseling before their relationship becomes what they believe to be irreparable. Often times lack of communication is the stressor between couples. Learning to communicate with each other is crucial to a strong relationship. Each of us process information differently and when we learn how to respond to our partners through their processing channels we gain insight into how they process information and we can effectively communicate with them.
The couples I’ve worked with have found this experience to be most effective, helpful and interesting. I offer the necessary tools for couples to use to build a stronger relationship and to notice and remember the positive aspects about each other. A relationship that has a strong foundation to begin with typically grows into a healthier more successful one.
If the decision is to dissolve a relationship, often times an individual from that relationship will choose to remain in therapy for individual counseling. Healing may be at a deeper level and they may need to grieve this relationship and gain closer insight into the dissolution. It is an important time to learn more about themselves now that their partner or spouse is no longer in their life.
